Did you know that when it comes to love and compatibility, your sun sign is only a small part of the jigsaw? One of the most important aspects of any relationship is how the couple communicate, and that’s largely ruled by your Mercury sign. When there is a good connection or harmonious relationship between Mercury signs, compatibility will be greatly increased and a relationship is much more likely to have staying power, because the couple will be better able to talk their way through any difficulties.
Mercury is the planet of communication. We all have different communication styles – some of us barely ever stop talking, some of us are much more restrained with words; some of us will instinctively talk our way out of (and into) trouble, while others of us will stay silent until we have something constructive to say. For some people, communication is authoritative and brusque, for others it’s more hesitant and less assertive. Exploring your Mercury sign and understanding how you communicate is a good way to increase your chances in love and compatibility with anyone. Because Mercury is always close to the sun, your Mercury sign will always be either the same as your sun sign, or the sign before or after your sun sign.
Mercury in the fire signs – Aries, Leo and Sagittarius – brings a quick mind and bright intelligence, but also brings an impulsive streak to what you say and how you say it. You can be hurtful with your words, because you speak before thinking it through. You’re an assertive communicator, however, and will always fight hard to win an argument. In love and compatibility, those with Mercury in a fire sign need to learn to listen a little more and to speak a little less. Some patience in communication is also needed if your partner has Mercury in an earth or water sign; don’t expect others to react instantly to what you say.
If you have Mercury in an earth sign – Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn – you’re a very deliberate communicator. You take care to say or write exactly what you mean, in a way that cannot be misinterpreted. You also value logic and critical analysis, and will consider any situation carefully before reaching a conclusion. This can be both a blessing and a curse in love, and compatibility with other Mercury in fire signs is stressful because of your very different ways of communicating. If you have Mercury in an earth sign, you need to learn that sometimes making a snap decision can be a good thing, and that not everything in your daily life needs such intense analysis.
Those with Mercury in an air sign – Gemini, Libra and Aquarius – are the best communicators of all, particularly Gemini, which is ruled by Mercury. These individuals are naturals at speaking, writing and getting their point across. When facing a relationship problem, the Mercury in air individual will ask questions, make suggestions, go back and forth and eventually come up with an innovative solution. I say eventually, because it takes some time – people with Mercury in an air sign need to learn to trust their gut instincts more and to rely less on endless discussion and debate. In love and compatibility, the best match is with Mercury in fire signs.
Finally, those with Mercury in a water sign – Cancer, Scorpio or Pisces – communicate straight from the heart. Their word are laced with vivid emotion and they’re always either full of joy or absolutely heart broken, with seemingly no middle ground. Often, however, if you have Mercury in a water sign, you’ll hold back in verbal communication at times of trouble, preferring to write it down, or to withdraw into yourself until you feel safer, which can lead to love and compatibility issues with those who have Mercury in a fire or air sign. Those with Mercury in a water sign need to learn to speak up more and to not allow others to take advantage of their sensitivity.
Whatever your respective Sun and Mercury signs, compatibility is a complex issue. If you have questions about star sign compatibility, you’re welcome to ask our astrologer. Alternatively, enter our monthly draw to win a free compatibility report, or buy an Astromatcha compatibility profile for a full and detailed analysis of your chosen relationship.
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