Everyone thinks they know what they want from a lover – passion, lots of sexuality, romance, adoration, excitement – oh, and drop dead gorgeous looks and a lavishly funded bank account wouldn’t hurt either. But what about once the initial fever of a new love has worn off? What about when marriage is on the cards? Does the wish list of qualities change when marriage compatibility is the issue, rather than just a short term love affair?
Of course most of us don’t look at love in this calculating way, but if we did – if we stopped a few months in and took the time to write a new wish list, we’d probably start adding less than exciting words like “stability”, “good potential parent”, “careful with money”, “faithful”, or “supportive of my dreams”. Astrologically, marriage compatibility between star signs needs to be deeper than the initial thrill which brought you together, and it completely depends on what you as individuals want from your future.
When you’re thinking about marriage compatibility, test your own preconceived notions. What we think we want in the first flush of romance isn’t always what we’re going to want fifteen years and three kids later. How important to you are things like financial security, size of family, or conventional lifestyle? If you’re an emotional, sensitive, water sign type, will you cope with that fiery, passionate fire sign partner for the long haul? Sure, it’s exciting now, but for ever? If you’re an adventurous, independent Aquarius or Sagittarius, will Cancer’s home cooking and slippers-at-the-ready way of taking care of you still delight you a decade from now, or will you feel suffocated?
Marriage compatibility need not necessarily mean marriage in the legal sense, of course; here we’re talking about any relationship which you intend to last for life, regardless whether you actually do the deed legally or not. It’s impossible to judge something this subtle from star signs alone, but Astromatcha’s star sign compatibility reports take into account each partner’s full birth charts and can offer a wonderful insight into both the strengths of your relationship and any potential pitfalls – after all, forewarned is forearmed.
If there were a failsafe astrological marriage compatibility test, astrologers would make a fortune (and save couples a fortune in divorce costs too!) – but of course, there is no such thing. What astrology can do is to analyse your relationship from all angles, and explain exactly how your two unique personalities interact with one another, for better and for worse. From this, it’s up to you to figure out what kind of marriage compatibility you have – no astrologer can make that decision for you.
There are always exceptions to every rule in any case, and some of the most unlikely pairings of people turn out to have the most amazing marriages; I’m sure you can think of a few yourself! And on the other hand, people you felt sure were destined to be together sometimes end up drifting apart and the marriage collapses – we’re funny creatures, us humans. Astrology plays its part in how we interact with one another, but it only illustrates what may happen. Neither your zodiac sign nor your whole birth chart predicts the future or changes your basic nature. It’s important to understand that relationship astrology can guide you, but that something as important as marriage compatibility shouldn’t be left to astrologers alone! (We don’t want the responsibility, thanks!)
Think about it – if there were a way to precisely foretell the future of your long term relationship, would you use it? Most of us wouldn’t, at the crunch. We prefer to figure these things out for ourselves, and so we should. Think of astrology marriage compatibility guidance as being just that – guidance. Not rules. Not a set of instructions. And most certainly not a marry-or-do-not-marry order. Ultimately, it’s up to you two to make the most of your relationship; between you, you can chart a course for better or for worse, helped along the way by an astrology compatibility map.