Libra and Cancer Compatibility: The Idealist and the Homemaker

Since these two signs both seek stability and balance, you might think that Libra and Cancer compatibility is a sure thing. However, the two partners in this relationship are very different people, and this could end up being a balancing act that neither can win. For the Idealist and the Homemaker, different priorities in life are likely to be the deciding factor. If the couple is truly in love, of course, compatibility astrology is irrelevant and they will overcome their differences. But if either partner has any doubts, this is a complicated and difficult relationship.

There is an underlying romantic outlook on life that is shared between Libra and Cancer. Libra is ruled by Venus, the planet of love, while Cancer is ruled by the Moon, which represents emotions. They both love to love, and they both want a long term relationship, but that’s about where the similarity ends. Libra is an air sign and operates primarily on an intellectual level. The Libra partner will find Cancer’s mood swings and deep emotions incomprehensible and alarming. Meanwhile Cancer, a sensitive water sign, will find Libra’s emotional aloofness to be cold and scary. Unfortunately for Libra and Cancer compatibility, there just isn’t the emotional common ground here on which to build a long term relationship.

Fundamentally, this couple don’t agree on a great deal. They have different approaches to money, careers, friendships, goals, politics…you name it, they will conflict over it. About the only thing they do agree on is the need for a loving and stable family life. If the love between them is strong enough, this shared desire for domestic bliss might be enough to hold them together, but Libra and Cancer compatibility is all too often a short lived wonder. It doesn’t help that both signs can be rather passive aggressive.

When the Idealist and the Homemaker get together, then, it can be quite a bad tempered match – surprisingly so, given that both of these signs are generally kind and placid by nature. They just seem to rub one another up the wrong way most of the time. Even their social life will be a cause of conflict, with sociable Libra wanting to enjoy the high life and inject some glamour into the relationship, while home loving Cancer just wants to play happy families at home. For Libra and Cancer, compatibility is elusive and unstable at best.

That’s not to say that this couple don’t admire certain things about one another. Libra does admire Cancer’s ability to make everyone feel loved, and Cancer in turn adores Libra’s wit and charm. It’s simply not enough, however, to create long term harmony between this couple. That’s the ultimate sticking point, because harmony is essential for Libra, and Cancer compatibility too hinges upon a peaceful and happy atmosphere. There will just be too many disagreements for either partner’s comfort.

Since both Cancer and Libra are cardinal signs, there will also be some power struggles in this partnership. Both signs want to be in charge, and both want things done their way or not at all. However, neither is particularly forthright in the expression of their emotions, so there won’t be many outright tantrums. Instead, the risk is that repressed anger will ruin the relationship slowly. For Libra and Cancer compatibility to stand any chance, it’s essential that the couple learn to deal with problems and arguments as and when they arise, instead of entering a state of denial and allowing these things to fester. Far better to both be temporarily but briefly upset than to both end up resenting the other, with far too many things left unsaid.

For the Libra Idealist, this relationship ultimately fails to live up to its promise. Always trying to improve everything, the Libra partner may try to improve Cancer….and you can be sure that the Homemaker won’t take too kindly to this, and will dig in his or her heels and refuse to compromise. Both partners will be happier elsewhere, unless there are other elements in their birth charts which help to balance out the problems outlined here. And lots and lots of true love. Astrology compatibility based on sun signs is only a guide – for a more detailed view, try a star sign compatibility report from Astromatcha, which will help you navigate this tricky and somewhat moody partnership.

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  1. well i think cancer and libra r made for each other period

    • I am dating a libra and things seem to be fine 🙂

  2. Me libra him cancer one month into this relationship.I’m scared of being hurt by his I don’t care attitude.I’m so confused& unbalanced

    • Its a fasade don’t believe that idc front he is putting on he prolly cares to much and refuses to showcit u gotta get thru that tough act all of us do that

    • Omg! I am the same way! Me n my cancer hv just bn together a month as well n I told him abt his not caring attitude makes him come off as being an A hole n it drives me insane. I am so confused abt wht to do but I’m tryn to give him time to open up more hoping tht will help

      • Hi Kiyah, yes not knowing what to do can be confusing but our detailed compatibility reports can offer deep insight and practical advice on how to handle situations & challenges that you will likely experience in your relationship….

  3. I m a libra who has been dating a cancer man for 8 months and he truly so loving and makes me beautiful and sweet. The love is very pure. I do like to have intelluctual conversions sometimes.. to him seem like “aruguments” when we dont agree but to me its just talk no need to get emotional. Other then that id rather have the emotion and looove. Then a cold partner.

  4. I’m Libra my husband is Cancer. We are both strong willed, we are both perfectionists in whatever we do, he is so caring and giving as I am. When I went through chemo I couldn’t have asked for a better nurse. We are both straight up with one another and trust each other completely. If not an emergency we do not call each other during the day. He kisses me every morning and every night before bed. We know what pushes the others buttons so we dont do it out if respect for the other. Just celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary.

    • I’m married to a cancer also and happy to hear that your marriage is surviving!

  5. I’m a female Libra currently dating a male Cancer. We been together for about a year. It was amazing when we started dating. We never talked before we started dating, we’d only make eye contact. A lot. I had a huge crush on him. It was a little hard for us to really get close. At one point, we couldn’t talk to each due to personal problems. It led to my depression, and when we finally got to see each other again, it was distant. Barely talked. It got better, but once we finally hit a year being together and few weeks or months later he dumped cause of family. It hurt a lot, I tried so hard to get over him, by dating someone else. The new guy was a Scorpio but I only found out after I dumped him. We were able to talk, and text a lot more then I could with the Cancer. I dumped him after a month cause the Cancer wanted me back and still hasn’t told his family we’re together. I feel like it’s not really worth it anymore. I don’t feel the same about him, and it’s leading me to think I should just dump him. Cancer’s can be diffcult partners for a Libra. They are private and cold. We just don’t work.

    • Yup private and cold. Two perfect words.

  6. I am a cancer dating a libra. For a year and 4months, i absolutely love him , at first we did have to learn to deal with problems on spot instead ofwaiting ..that almost destroyed our relationship,but we have learned to grow together , and. Love all our differences because thats what makes ut exciting we both learn new thing, ways, and interest

  7. Im a libra female and dated a cancer male for a year and it was the worst year of my life, never again and im glad it’s over because he was crazy and a very big liar!!!

    • Omg me toooo! Sex was great though. When we did have it.

  8. ditto I am libra.. and he is cancer.. he is very loving and that is what I want.. we have alot in common.. goals and desires

  9. Im à scorpio who was dating à cancer im madly in love with her but she dumped me for a libra i still cry cause i miss her si much

  10. well i have a damn problems in my relationship but we are still together since 2014 .. we argue a lot especially me (libra) but she try to compromise (cancer) true love never finished by these things..we both cant live without each other ..

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