When Aries and Aquarius get together, you get the impression that they could change the world – if only they stayed together long enough. Unfortunately, not many of them do. Aries and Aquarius compatibility is a strange and wondrous thing when it works, but it’s not a terrific match for a conventional relationship because these two signs handle the world very differently.
At first glance you might think that this couple could learn a lot from one another, and you’d probably be right. However, neither Aries nor Aquarius feels they have much to learn on a personal level, and their individual arrogance might be what holds them back. Aries can be selfish and arrogant in a direct, personal way. Aquarius is not arrogant on the surface, but does exhibit a kind of intellectual arrogance which will turn Aries right off. Aries and Aquarius compatibility can work well as a friendship or a professional relationship, but its quirks make it a tricky combination for love and romance.
It’s not always easy to understand Aquarius/Aries compatibility; relationship astrology can give us clues, but this is a complex partnership to crack. Aries is ruled by Mars, the planet of passion and war. Straight off, you can see how this sits uneasily with the Aquarius partner, ruled as he or she is by Saturn, planet of restraint and logic, and Uranus, planet of vision. Aquarians are opposed to war, even of the internalised, relationship kind. They’re much too visionary for that, and will want to rise above the petty squabbles Aries excels at. Meanwhile, Aries feels stifled by Aquarius’ lack of emotional displays, and rather cross at being outwitted intellectually. For Aries and Aquarius, compatibility comes only if both sides are willing to compromise rather a lot.
It’s not all bad news. Aries does admire the quirkiness and eccentricity of Aquarius, and Aquarius is impressed with how easily Aries gets things done. If – but it’s a big if – they learn to co-operate, they can be wonderfully creative together, with Aries bringing Aquarius’ big ideas to life. Mankind could certainly benefit from such a partnership, but the two individuals might find it too contrary to bear. It’s like one of those food combinations which ought to be good for you, but tastes a little off! Unfortunately for Aquarius/Aries compatibility, relationship stress of any kind can be a killer for this delicate balance. This is definitely a relationship which works best in an unconventional setting. An off the wall lifestyle will suit Aries and Aquarius; compatibility in a reality where someone has to pay the bills, take out the trash and get the kids ready for school is much harder to find. Mutual respect between these two star signs will quickly fizzle and fade under everyday, routine pressures.
Aries certainly warms up Aquarius in the bedroom, so an interesting (and even slightly kinky!) sex life helps to keep this couple together, but even there Aquarius aloofness can be misinterpreted by jealous Aries and could be the source of even more tension. Remember that although fire (Aries) needs air (Aquarius) in order to survive, air doesn’t really need fire all that much. Elementally, however, air warmed by fire will rise to new heights, so Aquarius can benefit from Aries ability to inspire and to encourage – but if that inspiration comes at a cost of their personal freedom, the Aquarius partner is likely to decline. Aries and Aquarius compatibility stumbles when it comes to issues of space and fidelity, because while Aries demands loyalty, Aquarius demands freedom.
Remembering the mythological archetypes of this couple can be revealing. Aries, the Hero, wants to be loved and worshipped for his or her actions and bravery, which the ram likes to think are born of lofty ideals but which can actually be quite self serving. Aquarius, the Visionary, abhors selfishness, and wants to respected for his or her ideas – but isn’t honestly that bothered about being loved for them, and often struggles to put those ideas into practice in any case. The Visionary will tell the truth, even when it hurts, and will remain calm and distant while doing so. Aries the Hero, known for bluntness, will tell the truth too, but with added temper and fire. Where Aries and Aquarius compatibility runs into trouble is that each sign’s truth is very different to the other. If they are truly in love, and can resolve those very different approaches to life, they can do marvellous things together, but it’s a big ask for both signs.